Happy Valentine’s Day

Roses are red, violets are blue. Don’t let these shenanigans fool you!

Hello Beautiful People,

So…….. it’s valentine’s day again and before I go on to writing this post. First of all, I want to say HAPPY ANNIVERSARY TO DEFYNLOGIC and a big, big, BIG thank you to everyone who has been supporting my passion for writing over this part year. I really love and appreciate you all, and I hope to continue to inspire and motivate you as you have me. This year hope to bring you more interesting and useful content!

(SPECIAL ANNONCEMENT!!!!!!!! we now have our own domain!!! which means we will be rebranding soon. To celebrate this achievement and our birthday, today’s post will be a little different, surprise bbelow 😉 )

First post of the year? Well, lets get into it 🙂

Last year when I wrote Valentine’s Day Shenanigans I shared a scenario one too many of us are familiar with, little may you know that I may have been in that scenario myself. Living with the pressure and comparisons of everyone around me, leaving me to wonder why certain things weren’t happening for me. Remember what I said about wrong relationship – wrong reasons ? Yeah, that was me too. I may have seemed to have it altogether when I wrote that post but, believe it or not, as much as I write to help other people I also do it to help myself.

One year later and my eyes have opened, but everything in I said in that post still stands today. I am STILL that girl that values and is at peace with her singleness. We all get side tracked, make mistakes, however, that’s not what matters. What’s important is that you learn from your mistakes, because I certainly know I learned the hardest, yet most valuable lesson EVER.

Every test is a lesson , Every lesson is a blessing, If you choose to see the message!  – Guvna B

So what has changed between last Valentine’s day and today? Well,

1. I know God loves me (Romans 8:28)
2. I am still the love of my life (I promise I’m not vain LOL)
3. I treat myself (sometimes a little too much – damn money is good)
4. I am enjoying the season (evidently)

 

No! I mean what has really changed?

Last year I was learning all of these things, I was at the beginning of my journey of falling in love with myself. I shared the steps I took and what I learned along the way. You see my beautiful people, when you’re learning, you don’t know everything so sometimes you fall of the wagon, sometimes you fall really hard. I did. Sometimes life gives you lemons and disguises it as PLATINUM! But, what will you do with that bitter experience? I got back up, dusted myself off and remembered who I am, remembered whose I am! I decided to fall back in love with myself. Now I walk in confidence and no one can take that away from me. I am no longer a learner but a master! Of course I could not do all this alone….

 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me – Philippians 4:13

 

Before I was single , now I’m single , SINGLE and the master of being alone. Enjoying my own company, appreciating myself and most importantly I’m happy. Have you ever heard the saying ; “if you’re healing you shouldn’t be dating”?  Mind you, healing doesn’t have to be a depressive state of heartbreak!!!! Healing can be the ability to identify unresolved personal issues that need to be dealt with. I don’t know about you, but I personally feel it would be selfish to go in to a relationship with baggage, inevitably dumping it onto the other person. For what?! they’re my partner NOT my therapist, or in any way responsible for my happiness. That’s my job! ( Ask the Smiths).

Like I always say;

It doesn’t have to make sense to anyone else, it just has to work for you.

Following the “rules” of society can lead you to the wrong road and I can tell you that for free. I’ve realized that I defy logic because I will never be anyone’s expectation. Love yourself and please, please, please as a friend i’m begging, continue to love yourself and don’t lose yourself even when in a relationship (you’ll be surprised how that can happen without you even realising). Live life for you, do what makes you happy. Right now I’m focusing on my career, healing and becoming the best version of myself there could ever possibly be. Dedicated from changing my title from Miss to Dr.

At the end of the day what I’m trying to say is LOVE YOURSELF

Happy Valentines day. I hope I have helped someone out there!