Your struggle is a testimony

Hello Beautiful People,

I would like to take this opportunity to thank all my readers for being on this journey with me thus far. In an attempt to share a deeper connection with you all, I would like to share more of my personal stories. I know I have an “about me” page where I have mentioned overcoming trials and adversities, but I never thoroughly explained what they are AND I never properly introduced myself. The more I write, I aim to get close to my readers and have an interactive relationship. Lets be friends! :). My life is my own personal testimony and I would like to use real stories to fulfil my ambition of inspiring people.

You don’t need to be a celebrity to inspire people , you just need to be a real person with a story people can relate to.

 

 

 

 

 

(A quote from Napoleon Hill)

In my opinion, this statement is very true, it’s one of the many influences behind the name DEFYNLOGIC, and I’ll tell you why………

Back in 2014 I made one of the hardest decisions in my adult life. I dropped out of university! (Yeah, yeah I was a drop out). I called it a “year out” or “taking a break”, however, during this time I decided to study something completely unrelated. From friends, family and people who love me I got comments like; “you took a year out to study?? Who does that😳”, questions like; “how is it going benefit you?” and suggestions like; “why don’t you just take the year out to work full time?”. No one could seem to understand why I was taking time out of my degree to study a diploma. Even people who genuinely cared about me considered it a waste of time and no one at this time was encouraging me. I even questioned myself from time to time, why was I actually taking time out of my degree to study a diploma?. Truth is I didn’t know and I couldn’t answer. It was God’s Plan.

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your paths”. – Proverbs 3:5-6

With this in my heart, despite not knowing exactly what God had in store for me I trusted and believed Him when He told me He had my back. At that time my truest and deepest desire was to go back to university after my so called “gap year” and finish what I had started. However, God had a different plan and that plan is what brought me here, where I am today. If I had listened to the opinions of others or doubted in His words I would never have been prepared for what I was about to go through ; was it the debt higher than Mount Everest that left me unable to go back to where I was studying?, the numerous rejections from universities that left me feeling helpless, or a complete career diversion that made me look like I had no idea what I wanted out of life? Noting could prepare me for any of that, not even my loved ones. Truth is only God, trusting in His word and that diploma would save me and open several doors.

Sometimes when God puts an opportunity on our door step, just because it is not what we wanted or asked for at the time we can end up shooting ourselves in the foot if we reject it, which is why I decided to go through with it, although reluctantly. God wanted the best for me and I knew that but in hindsight I took my experience for granted. When I finished the diploma I was so ashamed and felt like it was nothing that I didn’t even go to the graduation. Till this day I remember vividly God telling me I was ungrateful and that is why from then on I have celebrated every milestone ever since (and there are many more to come).

Guys guys guys! I need to emphasise the harsh reality that not everyone will understand your journey. Not to say that these people do not genuinely care about you, in fact the only reason why they are criticizing and giving advice in the first place is they want the best for you. Yes I know we all believe in #CuttingEveryoneOff and all that jazz, but, NO! we have to understand that not everyone who questions our decisions are enemies of progress. They just don’t understand and what people don’t understand they criticise.

Sometimes the reason why we fear the words and opinions of these people is because we are not fully grounded and sure within ourselves.

However, at the end of the day our life is our responsibility and ultimately the decision is up to you. Take their advice OR smile, thank them politely for their well put-together-logical input and do what you want to do because only you truly know what is best for you. In those cases where you don’t, let God guide you.

Taking a year out isn’t something I was completely happy with. Truth be told it definitely knocked my spirit, but in the long run I have learned so much. It’s true what they say everything does happen for a reason and just because sometimes we have to slow down or even divert doesn’t mean we have to stop.

Just because things are not going exactly as we planned doesn’t mean we have to give up.

That was an eye opener of a year and I enjoyed every single part of my “year off”. By Grace of God I went back to studying a degree and ACED IT!!! ( CLICK HERE to watch my Youtube channel on how my day went). Ironically, some could say I am in the same position now 4 years later taking my “career break” in Paris, working and studying in a different field than usual. Yes once again I have had those same comments, questions and suggestions thrown at me. The only difference this time is that I am in a completely differently place mentally, I am not questioning myself. This time I know exactly that God is doing and I am ready for it. Come September I am ready to start my Masters in my first love and I am speaking into existence that I am on the way to DR. TORI.

I hope this motivated somebody out there, people often may fail or do not reach their ultimate potential because they doubt themselves and allow others cloud their judgment. PLEASE DONT! Remember….

It doesn’t have to make sense, it just has to work

P.S Incase you missed it, lease please CLICK HERE and check out my youtube channel.