Valentine’s Day Shenanigans

 

Hey Beautiful people , since its Valentine’s day today I couldn’t think of a better time to publish my first post, and cliché as it may be , what better to talk about than the topic of “SELF-LOVE”. Although it may be a typical post on #SingleAwarenessDay, lets not forget whether in a relationship or not self- love is the foundation to any relationship. So today I will be sharing my personal expression of the importance of self-love.

Let me share a scenario: its valentine’s day, your 25 or over, there were weddings galore the previous year and many more to come this summer of which you may be a bridesmaid. The bride’s are all your age or possibly younger. Your planning your best friend’s hen-do and your wondering why its not you planning a wedding. Does this sound familiar? It may be you but STOP!!!!!

This right here is why people jump into relationships for the wrong reasons. Relationships which may in turn be toxic and unhealthy, at the wrong time, or even with the wrong person. I must admit at some stage this has been me (probably more than once). Recently after watching a sermon series on YouTube I found peace and remembered being the girl who was always content and valued her singleness.

I am going to share 4 self – love tips that I live by on valentines day and everyday.

1. God Loves you!

Many of us in our 20 somethings feel like time is running out and as the clock is ticking we begin to question AM I LOVABLE?, so much value is placed on relationships that we equate having someone in out lives to how much we are loved.

If we place our worth on how much another person loves us, we will only ever be worth how much valve they place on us

John 15: 13 gives a perfect definition of love but how many of us can truly say that our friends, even partners will sacrifice their life for ours? I’ll wait…………….But John 3:16 tells us how we are loved. So much that Jesus Christ willingly came down from His throne in Heaven and died for us. We are priceless, Love is Priceless. Stop selling yourself as anything less.

I kid you not the moment I started believing this is the moment I found peace and the love He has for me is what converted into the love I have for myself and others.

2. I Love My Freaking Self

I don’t think I have loved myself as much as I do now and that love can only keep growing. Yes, I may be heavier than my early 20s self, yes I may have had my heart broken more than once, and yes I may be single AF with a DM dryer than the Sahara desert but boy am I happy.

Self- love comes from within and I don’t need anyone to validate it. Time alone with yourself shows you how beautiful you really are, you begin to appreciate your qualities and accept your flaws. You reflect on your relationships and wonder to yourself, being the prize that you are, how you accepted anything less than you know you are worth. You also have time to reflect on your insecurities and fears and construct a plan on how to overcome them. Your no longer afraid of being vulnerable because no one can use your weaknesses against you , you have distinguished exactly what they are and understand how to deal with them.

It’s easy to forget to enjoy being alone and focus on all the reasons why we are not in a relationship. However you must be the best you before becoming a part of another person.

Live your best life before becoming someone else’s wife

You are enough!

3. Treat Yourself!

You may hear this often , and cliché as it may sound it is very practical. Actions speak louder than words, its all well and good to believe in yourself worth but you also have to show it. Whether you are in a relationship or not you require time alone to do what you love, to take care and pamper yourself, go to the spa, take yourself on a date, go on a shopping spree, get your hair/ nails done or a shape up. Put on that freakum outfit and look at yourself in the mirror and say “Damn, I look good”, don’t wait for someone else to say it! Workaholic as I am , sometimes I am guilty of neglecting the self-care aspect of self-love but I have to remind myself , how I look on the outside is a reflection of what I feel on the inside. True joy comes from within, let love exude from the inside and may your glow shine so bright it blinds anyone who tries to dim your light!

 

Last but not least….

4. ENJOY THE SEASON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This last point is especially for my singletons. Being single is a beautiful moment, and although I understand why some people beg to differ, its unfortunate that it is often wasted worrying. Remember this season is time, time lost can never be regained! I will again hold my hands up and be honest but right now I have never been so content with my “singleness” Two beautiful songs ,WithholdingNothing  and Surrender have helped me and now I am at peace and trust in God. Instead of planning the hypothetical ( and trying to control everything), I plan for where I am now.

No more cramming and wondering how I will fit marriage and a husband into my plans – que sera sera. I am just enjoying the season. Trust me once you surrender your destiny into the hands of the maker, life is so so so so much easier.

I am living , learning exploring, appreciating life to the fullest capacity- why worry about the unknown?

Congratulations for making it to the end of this post. I hope I have inspired at least one person. In the mist of all I just wanted to remind us all that love is in the air everywhere. To all my singles, taken, engaged, married, have a fabulous , love filled valentines day. Remember to love effortlessly and most importantly , LOVE YOURSELF FIRST!