Hello Beautiful People,
Before I get into this post, I just want to say a BIG thank you to you for supporting me and making me feel like my blog makes a difference. I write not only for me, but to share my passion, experiences and knowledge, in hopes that it helps you in one way or another. Sharing my gift with you is a blessing I will never take for granted, and on the days when I really feel discouraged or like giving up, your support is what keeps me going. Thank you and cheers to two amazing years.
So much has changed in the past two years but one thing remains the same……I am as single as when I wrote my very first post Valentine’s Day Shenanigans. However, I have learned a hell of a lot in those two years, and although it hasn’t been a bed of roses, in hindsight, I certainly have loved and enjoyed getting to know myself more with every hurdle.
One important thing I have learned is that there are different stages within the single period. Two years ago I was in the battle with societal pressure, watching people around me loved up and walk down the aisle, while I was at the beginning stage of appreciating my own company. Last year I was in the stage of healing and completely just enjoying my life without fear of the unknown. This year……I’m ready y’all lol. I am at the stage where I fully understand what it means to be happy alone whilst simultaneously being ready for a relationship and sharing yourself,and what you have to offer with someone. But not just anyone, because even though my heart is open, I live by Proverbs 4:23!
It is imperative that the person we choose to spend our lives with isn’t just “decent”. Before you settle, ask yourself, “is decency the best I deserve?”. The answer is NO! Decency is bare minimum. Don’t ever let pressure make you settle for less than you deserve. The person must be worthy of us, deserving of us, compatible with us, and most importantly, their destiny must be aligned with ours. I have one question;
How do you even know what your purpose is, if you have never been alone long enough to find out?
There is such a negative connontation with being single, almost as it you aren’t good enough as an individual, everyone else around you is getting married and at every wedding your being asked when yours is. Don’t worry I’m here to tell you that, (whether or not it may feel like it now) your alone time will bring you peace, peace in believing the words of Romans 8:28.
For those of you in the healing stage, I understand what it is like to be in a place where you can’t even imagine being with someone, afraid to open your heart. One day you will find yourself in a place where you take ownership of maybe letting undeserving people take up space in your heart, however you will have reached the point where you will no longer be afraid because you will never ever EVER settle for less again! This time you know exactly what you are worth. You will eventually come to terms that any of your “failed” relationships were actually lessons, lessons that you needed to be exactly where you are meant to me. Trust me, you will get there.
My beautiful people, I have experienced it all. From societal pressure, to being in an unhealthy relationship with a narcissist, to being commander in chief to the #MenAreTrash committee, to healing and loving me. I’ve worn all the badges! And although I say I feel ready now, I will cherish every last minute of my time as a single woman, doing things for no one but me, and creating the best version of myself. Honestly this time wont last forever, enjoy it!
I hope this has encouraged at least one person who feels alone, don’t worry, God got you. Oh and I have another surprise for you CLICK HERE ;). I really hope you have enjoyed being on this journey with me the past two years, I know I certainly have had such an amazing time growing and realising this is not just a hobby, its a gift, a blessing, an opportunity bringing me one step closer to my destiny.
One more time, thank you for two years of riding with me.
Oh and I shouldn’t forget to say……
Happy Valentines Day 🙂
DefynLogic 